Often just before salad or between salad and main course. Start toast only after
caterer is rea
(with champagne in glasses) and photographers/videographers are ready.
Caterer may need 15-20 minutes to pour the champagne.
Your DJ should Introduce the best man and tell him to stand up.
If available the DJ should bring a wireless microphone to best man.
It is customerery for the DJ to invite both the best man and maid of honor to give a
After the toast, the DJ should ask if anyone else wants to say something to the
bride or groom or offer a toast.
At the end of the open toast, the DJ can ask if the bride or groom have anything to
say but it is not necessary .
"English Style" Toasting (optional)
This is usually done just as the bride and groom are finishing their meal, but before
all the guests are done. The DJ will ask the guests to stand and relate a touching or
funny memory of the bride or groom, or simply offer best wishes. Even if the best
man has already made the traditional toast, the DJ can have him start off. The DJ
will then then keep handing the toast off, first to the father of the groom, then to the
father of the bride, and so on until all guests have had an opportunity to toast the
newlyweds. Sometimes having the best man take the mic through the crowd
(instead of the MC) helps break the ice.
When it appears there are fewer people interested in speaking, the DJ will wrap it
up with everyone standing and toasting the bridal couple once more with raised
THE FOLLOWING SPEECHES LISTED ARE ONLY GUIDES, WE DO
ENCOURAGE YOU TO ALTER THEM TO SUIT YOUR OWN INDIVIDUAL
NEEDS FOR WHAT TO SAY.
TOAST FROM THE BRIDE
First, I would like to thank everyone for being here today to share in our happiness.
To Christy and Becky ( my bridesmaids) thanks for putting up with me today. With
out you I probably would have falling apart or showed naked or something. Thanks
for being great friends. To MO and Jamen ( groomsmen ) thanks for being such a
big part of our lives, with out you this day would be the same.
Most importantly I want to thank my mother and father and their spouse for this
beautiful day. With out whom none of this would have been possible. Dad thanks
for being here and giving me away. Mom thank for always being my best friend
and being there no matter what. Thank you and I love you both.
Also to our friends and family for the time and money that they spent to make this
the most perfect day I could have asked for. Thanks to Larry's parents for having
such a great kid, and thank you excepting me into your family with open arms.
Last but not least a thanks to my amazing husband for always being my night in
shinning armor. For all the love and happiness that you have brought me. Most of
all thank for our wonderful daughter. I will love you forever and a day.
TO HAPPILY EVER AFTER!!
TOAST TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM:
His speech is usually made by a good friend of either family or relative who is a
good speaker. Sincerity is the key word here for this Speech.
"I have known (Bride) since .... She has a lovely character (ATTRIBUTES) Etc.
Her home life has been ..... (PARENTS ATTRIBUTES) so it only stands to reason
that the Bride has some of the lovely, unselfish characteristics of her Parents. I
think the Groom is a lucky man to have (Bride) to stand by his side because etc. As
for (Groom) he has / hasn't always been on the scene, but over the past .... years he
has proved to be a wonderful husband and companion to (Bride). Let me tell you a
funny story about (Groom) .... etc. I would like take this opportunity of wishing
both (Bride & Groom) the very best for their future happiness together .... etc.
LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, I NOW WOULD LIKE (Bride & Groom) TO
STAND AND INVITE EVERYONE TO DRINK WITH ME, A VERY SPECIAL
TOAST TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM!.."
RESPONSE BY THE BEST MAN:
"Thank you (Groom), It has been a pleasure for me to be your best man. We have
been friends for a long time, & I was delighted when you asked me to stand in this
role today. I'd like to relate a little story about (Groom) ..... (Humorous or
serious). The Bridesmaids have also assured me that it was their pleasure to assist
(Bride). We have had a heap of fun together today, but seriously, on behalf of the
Bridesmaids, the Groomsmen & Myself, we wish to offer our best wishes an
congratulations to (Bride & Groom). We trust that they will enjoy a lifetime of
love and prosperity, be happy and be able to work through their problems together.
Hang in their, and invite us to your Golden Wedding Anniversary. Thank you".
TOAST TO THE BRIDES PARENTS:
The MC Calls on a Relative or close friend of Bride's family, to propose a toast to
the Brides parents. "I have known (Bride's parents) for many years now & our
association with them has been one of pleasure and respect. I am glad / honored to
be able to propose this toast to them.... (Relate briefly their virtues and quality
traits of character). With Parents such as (Brides Parents), is easy to see how they
have produced a lovely daughter such as (Bride). I can only recommend (Bride &
Groom) that you take a leaf out of your Parents book of life
IF I COULD HAVE (BRIDES PARENTS) UPSTANDING, WITHOUT ANY
FURTHER WORDS CAN EVERYONE CHARGE THEIR GLASSES TO TOAST
TO THE BRIDE'S PARENTS, "LADIES & GENTLEMEN TO THE BRIDE'S
RESPONSE BY FATHER OF THE BRIDE:
This is the fathers chance to say all those things he has wanted to say about his
Daughter in public!, Guests expect him to have a good say and brag if he wants to.
He is usually the one paying for the Wedding, after all!. "Thank you, (Friend /
Relative) for the kind words you said about my wife & myself. Now what can a
father say about a daughter like (Bride) ?. She has been winding me around her
little finger for so many years now that.. (I'm going to miss it?) (Groom), we are
happy to welcome you into our family. We've come to appreciate you as the
person who (Bride) has entrusted with her love, and my wife and I want to wish
you both every happiness. THANK YOU".
TOAST TO THE GROOM'S PARENTS:
MC Calls on a Relative or close friend of the Groom's family, to propose a toast
to the Groom's parents. This will be a similar speech to the one proposed to the
parents of the Bride. (Or changed to suit on the night)
RESPONSE BY FATHER OF THE GROOM:
This will be a similar speech to the one by the Father of the Bride. "Thank you (E.
g.: Jim) for your kind words. We would like to add our congratulations to the
newly weds. We feel that we are not losing a son, but gaining a Daughter. If I
myself could have chosen a wife for my son, I couldn't have made a better choice
than (Groom) has done himself. We are more than happy to welcome (Bride) into
our family, etc... THANK YOU". LETTERGRAMS, Emails, Faxes (The Old
fashioned Telegrams) The MC calls on the Best Man & Groomsmen to stand up
and read the telegrams or lettergrams. (Funny or not so funny ones received).
TOAST TO ABSENT FRIENDS
Toast proposed usually by the MC or a very good Friend or close Relative of the
Bride & Groom.
"LADIES AND GENTLEMEN IF I COULD HAVE EVERYONE UP STANDING
WITH CHARGED GLASSES AND WE WILL HAVE A TOAST TO ABSENT
FRIENDS" "LADIES AND GENTLEMEN TO ABSENT FRIENDS!"
KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL SPEAKING ARE:
It's easy to see why most guides recommend that three minutes is quite long enough
for a wedding speech! keyed up by wedding jitters, buoyed up by champagne,
often unaccustomed to facing an audience of people, every speaker longs to do
well, yet dreads putting both feet in their mouth. And if you've never (or hardly
ever) had to make a speech before, it's easy to panic. The most common traps are
speaking faster than normal, stumbling and adlibbing to cover up, and speaking
well over the three minute time limited.
THERE ARE JUST FOUR KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL SPEECH
1. Keep it short, keep it clean, learn it by heart. Remember to bring your notes and
don't be afraid to use them!
2. Use numbered postcard size notes with one sentence or short paragraph printed
in bold clear writing on each. They don't get lost, they don't rustle and they fit
comfortably into a suit pocket.
3. Rehearsal is a must! Persuade a friend to listen and watch, or use a tape
recorder and talk to the bathroom mirror.
4. Light humor and gentle jokes are warmly received in any wedding speech, but
be aware of clumsy phrasing or risqu頪okes which might embarrass or offend any
member of the wedding party or guests. Cliches about the Bride in her Nappys (or
the Groom without his), innuendo about previous relationships and mother-in-law
jokes are definitely OFF the wedding speaker's list (but you have the choice).
Finally, remember you have lots of friends among the guests, all of whom want
your speech to go over well just as much as you do!.....